About two years ago I was working full time and extra hours at another job location. I had just rented out my own apartment in a college living situation (cause per lease is cheap) and I had my own car, a great boyfriend, and I was pretty much starting out fresh since I had been living with my ex for a few months while going back and forth to my parents house which was an hour away. (The ex lived 5 minutes or less from my job) Then I pretty much just lived with my parents from sept till dec. When I got my apt.
Of course I lose my job because my work ethic had gone down hill the last two weeks I was employed. Lost my job the last week of January and found out I was 6 weeks pregnant on Feb 4th. So... I was so sick because I was pregnant and didn't know it yet. Because I had lost my job, I couldnt pay for my rent so I sub-leased and moved in with my boyfriend, his mom is amazing and insisted I move into their home to be closer to a support group.
I had my car already paid for so I kept the car, attempted two other jobs that I couldnt keep because I was just too sick while I was pregnant... and havent had a job since because I have been at home with my child. I know I am a little biased because this is the situation I am in... but... I would rather be at home raising my child then out in the workforce with a minimum wage job while some one else raised my kid and I struggled to pay them to do it. I am lucky I have a choice in the matter.
We are sacrificing so that we are both able to have a brighter future. My boyfriend is a full time student and works part time. Luckily he gets VA from the government for military benefits and thats how we scrape by... but I dont need someone who is mooching off her boyfriend and his parents telling me I need to get a job... or worse yet telling my boyfriend that I need to get a job behind my back and pretending like you never said anything.
I understand that if I were to work maybe we would have a little bit of money... but then again, maybe not. If I worked my food stamps and medical would be affected both for me and my child. I would have to pay for babysitting. I would have to pay for gas or the bus. I would have to take the time out of my day away from my child to serve someone else's needs. I would be allowing some strangers or atleast not myself to be raising my child without MY morals and MY values. I just don't see this as being the best option. I would rather do what I am doing ...
I would rather be a full time student and a full time mother. Thank you very much, but I do not need you judging me.
And ONE LAST THING.
I know for a fact that when you have children (since you are only 20 and still young and still living with your boyfriends parents while he is away at military training) you will not have a full time job. I doubt you will even work, because 1. You will have the money and benefits needed to stay at home with your children because of the man you are with, and 2. because you would rather raise the baby you carried, gave birth too, and love more than life it self than have some one else do it so you can go to "work".
When you have children, you will understand they are a 24 hour a day, 7 day a week job. It pays nothing but love and pride... no Vacations, no sick days... and its the best job you could ever ask for.
I keep meaning to update this blog but some how I always end up letting it slip my mind or not having enough time to do it... or for whatever reason I will end up getting mind block and not being able to write out my feelings and thoughts.
Well, Sophie is sleeping now and thats amazing cause its only about 9pm. And she usually stays up till about 11. But not tonight, she had a busy dad with dad and his football games haha. He's so obsessed.
Anywho, I cleaned the living room and did some dishes tonight. Thank goodness our house is super gross. I have black banana stains on my carpet and milk filled bottles that had been sitting on the sink for 2 days. Better believe I did some scrubbing!
Yesterday we went tailgating and I had some fun! Took some cute pictures and our team even won the game! Woot woot!
On another note: I have been planning for Sophia's 1st birthday which is in less than a month! OMG OMG! I dont know where the time went. We are thinking of Peter Pipers. All her cousins except for 1 is older than her and for E's 1st birthday in March was nuts. His parents used their income tax money and got a pop corn machine, a snow cone machine, a cotton candy machine, a pinata, and a jumping castle. They also spent $100 on booze for the adults and a ton of money for food. There is no way I am going to be doing that for Sophia, she won't remember it and I wont be dropping $1k on a party.
So we are probably gonna spend around $200 on pizzas and let them clean up the mess. =]
Other then that being the new news =] I have gotten completely caught up in this new site called Listia! You should check it out!
So, Again it's been over a month. I cant believe it takes me sooo long to come back and blog. I guess its my fault for getting into a ton of projects and then when I stop and breathe Im like "oh yeah, I can write about my life now" lol.
So here's whats been going on...
Sophia is now 9 months! Amazing! I had no idea how quickly little ones grow!
And She is definitely keeping me busy...
Also... I started another blog on lovelyish. Its called Savvygirlsoaps.lovelyish.com I am going to try to start selling the soaps I've been making... its my new hobby.
So go check it out. You wont be sorry. Also if you decide to buy something It'll go toward my college tuition lol.
Recently, our group of 'friends' went on vacation to San Diego. We weren't able to go because we had to pay rent and bills and well, lets face it gas prices in California are a little crazy. However, my So's brother and his girlfriend got to go because the 'friends' paid for their rooming expenses. So I am a little jealous.
I am happy that we didnt go for a few reasons; 1 being that 6 couples and a singleton would have had to split 3 rooms and 3 bathrooms so we would have only gotten a room for one of the three nights of the vacation and I do love sleeping in a bed... but I am still sad we didn't get to go. I am planning a vacation for the end of the summer. I can't wait, the beach, the sunsets, the food and the scenery of San Diego in general. Soooo different than the Arizona desert.
Luckily I have some pretty good piecing skills and made my new layout B-E-A-Utiful!